First:  When anyone hurts, you, put "spiritual iodine" on the wound at once.   That is, pray hard about it. If you do not do this, it will fester.

Second:  If resentment had hardened in your thoughts, apply grievance drainage.   That is, open you mind and let the grievance flow out.

Third:  Do this by unburdening yourself to a trusted counselor or write a letter to the person against whom you have the resentment.   Then tear it up and while holding the pieces in your hand pray for the person and forgive him.

Fourth:  Become fully aware of the harm resentment can do to you, even to making you ill.   Think of that whenever a hate thought comes.

Fifth:  Don't stop with forgiving a time or two.   Do it, if necessary, seventy times seven---490 times to be literal.

Sixth:  Thinking about forgiving is not enough.   You must come to a specific moment when you say, "With gods help I now forgive (insert name of person)."

Seventh:  Repeat the lord's prayer inserting your offender's name, Forgive me my trespasses as I forgive...."

Eight:  Pray for the other person, asking specific blessing for him, especially concerning matters which have previously annoyed you the most.

Ninth:  Speak in a kindly and complimentary manner and as often as possible about the person against whom you harbor antagonism.

Tenth:  Make a sincere study of the personality factors which created an unhappy relationship so that the "mistake pattern" in yourself may not recur.